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Take the average age that a cis child would start the puberty you are now undergoing. If you'd like, you can use a sibling or other relative's starting age to guess at what yours would've been. Keep in mind that hormonal shifts start a while before any changes are readily apparent, so the actual starting age is younger than you might guess.
Determine the amount of years you've been on hormones. Subtract any amount of time you weren't able to consistently keep up with it. If you went through a period of significant dose adjustment, you may want to set your starting clock at when you got on the right dose for you, not when you started trying it out.
Add Steps 1 and 2 together to get your True Gender Age.
Compare your changes to cis people of that age, not people your own age.
Has anyone else seen those videos of gender affirming surgeons “rating” trans people’s femininity/masculinity? Like they’ll stitch a video of a trans person documenting their transition and the surgeon will be like “Their face has perfectly feminized/masculinized” or “Even after the effects of hrt, their face is still masc/fem so I may reccomend getting facial feminization/masculinization surgery to really seal it”. And every time I see one of these I can’t think anything other than wait what???? Not only are you giving extremely unnecessary advice, but openly posting whether they are “passing” enough for you? Also just the assumption that all trans people want to be strictly masc and fem? That those are the only two options and that trans men/transmascs must be the epitome of masculine and transfems/ trans women must be the epitome of femininity? And it’s not like them stitching or reacting to their clients either, from what I’ve seen it’s mostly just random trans people who did not ask for this.
It feels like they are just looking at trans people like specimens to fix and perfect and force them into their neat little boxes on what they consider is a “complete medical transition” and “complete masculinity/femininity”. In the videos they act like they are the deciders of what is considered a masculine or feminine “look”. They always go out of their way to say how much of a trans ally they are and how they are helping trans people out too.
Also, never seen one about androgynous medical transitions. I have however seen them try to frame nonbinary people as trans men and trans women and force femininity/masculinity on them through “advice”.
Just because you work in trans healthcare and call yourself an “ally” doesn’t mean you are. Especially if you do shit like this. You don’t get a pass just because of your job.