pleasureandprinciple

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what a beautiful feeling it is to finally get over someone and realize that it was your adoration of them that made them so special. without that, they’re quite basic. just proof that the magic lives in you, not them.

Where do you get your hair inspo? Looking to dye my hair for the first time and want to take pics to my stylist

HairbyFlisan

Wu+Moberg

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ByJennieHogberg

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BlenchSundsvall

I credit hypergamytumblr and studyblr for helping me get into Michigan, Cornell, Georgetown, Berkeley, UCLA, USC, Tulane, UCSB, and UMiami. The help I got making lists of deadlines, refining my essays, finding fee waivers to apply to schools for free, going on tours, and maximizing my opportunities and productivity changed my application process for the better, and the tips and tricks I picked up were incredibly helpful and remain relevant to this day.

I think it’s incredibly important to use what resources are around you and pour what you have into the things you want. I had no idea where to start, and I love Tumblr, so I used the resources I’d found to formulate a plan and leapt in. I didn’t go to community college after high school, and I also didn’t want to go back to my high school and ask for resources, so TikTok, Reddit, and Tumblr played vital roles in crafting each application, and I spent hours absorbing information.

I really love the emphasis on discipline on this side of Tumblr. I’m a rather disciplined person in general, but I had to ramp up the discipline and dedication I had to a whole new level in order to keep myself on track and motivated. I had to create entirely new routines, constantly check myself, be consistent with all of my efforts, keep to my timeline and budget, and dance with 20 different apps at the same time while scheduling interviews and meetings with alumni. It’s very difficult to stay on track during the admissions process if you’re not Type A, and being able and willing to pick up new habits is a must.

What I’m saying is this: advice from Tumblr helped me to get stable, taught me how to settle down, and helped me start writing; TikTok videos from admitted and prospective students helped me clear my path and figure out where I wanted to tour and visit; and Reddit was great for interview tips and for getting my SAT score up. If you’re looking to apply to schools and want to get yourself on track fast, you have to be willing to use unorthodox methods and take advantage of what (free) resources you do have at your fingertips.

I got into 9 of the 11 schools I applied to and thought I wouldn’t get into, kept my application process completely free, and ended the journey with planning skills that I will be using until the end of my days. I learned how to follow through, how to chase an opportunity, how to dress and what to wear, and how to write a compelling essay, along with so many other important skills. I had to be willing to use what was at my disposal, take advantage of what was available to me, and not be afraid of the unknown to end up with the results that I have, and I’m happy I did.

Do you do Pilates?

I do Gyrotonics, not Pilates. Gyrotonics is better for my joints and my back; the classes I go to in the village are amazing and our teacher is incredibly knowledgeable, and I’ve been going twice weekly since I was a little girl.

i love not being accessible to a lot of people.

Do you have a boyfriend now?

There is a man in my life, yes. He meets all of my requirements, lives up to all of my standards, does the most to make me happy, and makes me feel like I’m truly understood. However, if we’re ever going to be together, I do have to get my degree. That was the agreement that we made. We see each other for meals a few times per week and do activities together as well.

i became what i needed and called it art

more things you like or use?

curls and that headband make for a truly splendid look.

. I don’t have a jealous bone in my body and I won’t begin to foster one. I want everyone to experience the height of pleasure .

Say it with me: I owe it to myself to see how good it can get.

Leaving for Ann Arbor today and D.C. on Friday. I’ve needed a break from New York City for a while now.

Favorite hair tutorial? I can't seem to get the blowout look right

I think that this is the holy grail of hairstyling routines.

Daily Makeup?

Sometimes I switch out the Hourglass concealer for my Armani concealer. I think it’s creamier, it blends well and doesn’t crease under powder, and I love the color I have it in. It’s a simple routine, but it’s not one that I’m devoted to; I like to switch up my eye makeup.

“the essence of true transformation lies in the willingness to let go of who we’ve known ourselves to be, for the possibility of who we might become”

War is over. Woke up to 10 different emails. 5 waitlist notifications and 5 financial aid offers from 5 schools.

Favorite Clothing Brand?

Helsa is probably my favorite brand at the moment. I think half of my closet is Helsa, and I find myself buying and wearing a lot of Elsa Hosk’s brand as of late. I’ve never had any trouble with what I’ve bought; the quality has all been really nice, and the fit and length have been perfect for me. I will say that I feel like a lot of the pieces are priced like investment pieces but, in reality, have a bit too much polyester to be worth the price they are, but all in all, I buy from the brand because I love what I own so far and enjoy the way and feel everything looks when it’s on my body.

Something you swear by?

Whenever I take a long flight and I land late, I make sure to set myself up for success by doing one thing. After I’m checked in and after I wake in the morning, I call down to concierge to have a bucket of ice and spa water sent up, dunk my face, gua sha, and spray with Na-Pca Spray to hydrate and depuff. I do it twice to enhance my results, I make sure to let myself rest, and I finish up with a lightweight hydrating moisturizer.

I saw what I wanted in my mind’s eye and decided I could have it. I decided that nothing was too grand, nothing was impossible or out of my reach, and nothing would hold me back from getting it. I thought to myself, “I would like to be beautiful", and so with a lot of work and planning, beautiful was what I became.

I feel like my conception of It girls was deeply shaped by growing up in the 2000s…I simply don’t believe that anyone who is chronically online can ever be a true It girl. It girls aren’t supposed to take loads of photos of themselves, they’re supposed to be photographed by others stumbling out of nightclubs or in appear in best dressed magazine spreads …They’re supposed to seem a bit mysterious and unreachable and like they’re always busy having fun and being glamorous. For this and so many other reasons I just cannot understand how anyone could conceive of Dasha from Redscare or any of these dead-eyed Dimes Square adjacent people as an It girl. Those people are a charisma vacuum. They never look like they’re having any fun and they’re also obsessed with online culture wars (profoundly unchic behaviour). Also their personas are extremely effortfully contrived while the true It girl exude effortlessness and seems like she influences people and culture simply by existing.

I’m sitting in my hairstylist’s chair for 6 hours today, so I’m shopping and designing my new place on my iPad. I’m moving to university and rushing this autumn, so I’m in the process of choosing what I’ll wear for each day. I don’t have a budget, and I like to shop, but the issue is I’m always out or otherwise busy with something more pressing than shopping, so it’s nice to sit with foils in my hair and focus on pulling everything together. This is much better than the Peking Duck and Diet Coke rest we do when I have a long appointment.

what a privilege it is to become the person you used to pray to be

Things you swear by?

Faux blowouts using my 1.5” T3 curling iron.

A very soft hand on the makeup and lashes.

Clean perfume, nothing cheap or overpowering.

Feminine outfits, I go out of my way to look nice.

High quality, but relatively simple, accessories

I’m busy crafting an image befitting of the woman I’d like to be and the lifestyle I’d like to live in the future.

Iconic image of Princess Diana on a yacht in Portofino, Italy, in August 1997.

A lot of people don’t have their own personality or ideas. Just a mix of whatever’s trending, whatever their favorite influencer says, and whatever gets the most likes. No depth, no critical thinking—just an echo of the internet.

Favorite restaurant in NYC?

My favorite place to lunch in New York City is The Boathouse. Sorry lol, I’m basic. Give me the Central Park Boathouse over anywhere else in the city almost any day, put a drink in my hand, and let me stay there. It’s a classic; the location is beautiful, the food has always been really good, and the setting is perfection. I’m not the sort of person who’s going to try a million and a half different places when there’s one place that has everything I want, and when it comes to NYC, there are so many trendy (expensive) places to eat that it’s nice to have one or two on your mind that you know will satisfy your needs. It's pricey, but totally worth it.

More ways you found your style?

I get my hair inspiration from HairbyFlisan. I wanted a really specific blonde color with a Scandinavian hairline, a seamless blend, and a custom row of extensions to make my hair look thicker. I didn’t want platinum or anything harsh; I wanted a gentle shift towards softness and an effortless blonde that would match my skin tone.

I usually do a matching French manicure and pedicure. I start with intensive nail preparation and make sure that my cuticles are removed and my natural nails have been prepped and prepared nicely. What I want is an elongated nail bed, a hidden natural nail free edge, gently rounded nails, a shorter smile line, a double layer of clear gel topcoat, and a soft pink base with a classic white smile line.

I tan, but I never, ever use tanning beds. I spray tan, and that’s enough for me. I like a neutral tan, not too dark or not too light; I like a full coverage and clean look, and the tan I use has to work for my style. I actually go to a bridal spray tan specialist for this; she’s not too expensive, and she’s very talented. She knows how to work with an olive undertone, and I love the way she’s able to blend the product into my skin.

My teeth were a major investment for me. I got a job at a dental office when I was 18, and over the past four years, I’ve been on a whole journey. I had braces for two years and had my wisdom teeth extracted; then I did professional Zoom whitening to get my teeth to the even white color I wanted, and I finished up with composite bonding and gum contouring. It was an ordeal to get where I am, and maintaining my smile is of the utmost importance to me now.

I apply my makeup with a lighter hand now. It’s easy for me to go overboard, and I’ve found that I look my best with cleaner looks. Learning how to do my face and blend my makeup, following bridal makeup artists and makeup artists in my favorite cities to find looks that I liked and could learn to do, practicing daily, and finding quality products in the right shades and with the right undertones were major parts of finally figuring out how to get my makeup to look the way I wanted it to.

Things that changed your face?

Lip filler, a tan, no more bottom mascara, thinner and slightly darker eyebrows, gua sha and nu face daily, good skincare, limiting alcohol and focusing on what I put into my body, cutting sugary drinks and adding kefir/kombucha to my hydration schedule, washing my sheets and makeup tools weekly, red light therapy, and learning how to apply makeup properly did it for me.

btw I am doing it afraid