See the original 100 Ways to say "I Love You" list here: [x] I was inspired to make one of my own for caretaking themes đ
"I'm here."
"Stay still."
"Trust me."
"You're safe."
"I've got you."
"I don't mind."
"I'm not mad."
"Lean on me."
"I understand."
"It's no bother."
"I'll clean it up."
"Take my coat."
"Need a hand?"
"Are you okay?"
"I'll handle this."
"Happy to help."
"Get some rest."
"Can I hug you?"
"I'll get the light."
"I can't lose you."
"Shh, don't cry..."
"My door's open."
"Take small sips."
"Stay behind me."
"I'll walk with you."
"Feel better soon."
"You're not alone."
"How'd you sleep?"
"I just want to help."
"I've got your back."
"Please be careful."
"It wasn't your fault."
"I'm a good listener."
"Let me help you up."
"When I say run, run."
"I'm glad you're okay."
"You're not a burden."
"I made your favorite."
"I'll see what I can do."
"How are you feeling?"
"We'll get through this."
"That's it, just let it out."
"I'm worried about you."
"I'll start a bath for you."
"I'm coming right back."
"I can stay up with you."
"I wish you had told me."
"It's okay to not be okay."
"Your health comes first."
"You need a ride home?"
"Sit tight, I'm on my way."
"I'm not here to hurt you."
"I'm not going anywhere."
"Just looking out for you."
"I'm sorry, I know it hurts."
"Let me worry about that."
"Stay as long as you want."
"I'll take care of everything."
"It's fine, I'll take the couch."
"I came as soon as I heard."
"You really gave us a scare."
"I'm not leaving you behind."
"I'm never too busy for you."
"I'll stay until you fall asleep."
"You don't have to apologize."
"Do you want to talk about it?"
"It's okay, it was just a dream."
"You ready to eat something?"
"Don't strain yourself, I'll get it."
"I've missed seeing you smile."
"Do you need another blanket?"
"You didn't deserve any of this."
"Follow my breathing. In...out..."
"Don't scare me like that again."
"I'll wake you in a couple hours."
"It's really me. I'm here, I'm real."
"I won't let them near you again."
"You first, I'll be right behind you."
"Do you want me to go with you?"
"I know I don't have to. I want to."
"You can hold my hand if it helps."
"I've got your next round of meds."
"Let me put on some fresh sheets."
"It's good to see you up and about."
"I'm with you every step of the way."
"I'll be outside if you need anything."
"Hey, you're supposed to be resting."
"You're the strongest person I know."
"Is there anyone you want me to call?"
"If you're not up for this, let me know."
"It's nothing to be embarrassed about."
"I just hate to see you hurting like this."
"Tell me what you need most right now."
"I called off work. You've got me all day."
"You've got my emergency contact info."
"I know you. You don't seem like yourself."
"I have a change of clothes ready for you."
"I'm so proud of you, and how far you've come."
"Call me if you need me. I don't care how late it is."
"They want to get to you, they'll have to go through me."
Non-sexual dominance is so cute-
"Come here, baby"
"Let me help you"
"Be careful"
"Come lay here, Princess"
"Sit on my lap, kitten"
"Come cuddle"
"Hold my hand while we're out"
u know sometimes it hits me that i am deeply, expressly loved, and fuck, guys, i honestly remember being depressed as shit and so hopelessly sad, and so fucking alone, and i swear, i know it sounds like bullshit when people say âit gets betterâ because i thought it was bullshit, i thought it was just âit gets better for everyone else but not me,â but itâs really really really not just other people. it means you.
i am so fucking loved, i am loved beyond my own comprehension, and 5 years ago, i would have never known, i would have never guessed, i wouldnât have ever even believed it.Â
and yeah, iâm still fucked up and i still have a shit ton of issues, but iâm not alone anymore. iâm working through them, and someday, i will be okay. there is light at the end of the tunnel, as cheesy as that sounds. i have shitty days, in fact, i have more bad days than good days, but my friends love me and hug me and tell me they love me in a million different ways, and i donât feel alone anymore.Â
it gets better. i swear on my fucking life, it gets better.
i am so fucking grateful, so goddamn fucking grateful, for what i have. i have a close few friends that love me for who i truly am. i have friends who know me, who get me, who i donât have to lie or pretend about anything, and they get me, and most of all, they understand and accept it. they encourage me. i have friends who believe, 100% in me. i have friends who love me.Â
5 years ago, i didnât think iâd ever have half of what i have today.
things get better.Â
iâm not a different person. i am, more or less, the same. iâm still not a happy person, iâm still a cynic, iâm still a pessimist, etc. but i am happy, sometimes. i am happy and i smile and i look at my best friend and i laugh out of sheer joy. things get better, and you donât have to change who you are.Â
i donât know what my point is. i guess: i donât know. i feel like so many people here send me asks saying that theyâve had shitty days, or there are kids who have had shitty months or years or lives, and honestly, i canât promise youâll be okay, but i can promise that this is not forever.Â
you will not be in this situation forever.Â
5 years ago, i was suicidal, depressed, and profoundly lonely.Â
i havenât had a real suicidal thought in over a year now, and when i do, itâs always fleeting. i am happy more than i am sad. iâm still lonely, and iâm physically alone a lot still, but i can call my friends and talk for hours with them. i fall asleep smiling, some nights.Â
there are bad nights, and i still have my fair share of hurdles to overcome, and lifelong burdens iâm going to have to carry, but i can keep walking, every single day. i can get out of bed without forcing myself, i can smile without feeling like my face might break, i can laugh without feeling strained and exhausted.
i didnât believe any of this was possible 5 years ago. i didnât even think iâd live to see my next birthday, 5 years ago. iâm so glad i did.
iâve seen 2 of my nieces take their first steps. i taught my nephew how to say my name. iâve pet an inordinate amount of dogs and cats. iâve lost people i loved, and iâve gained a few. i got to see my cousin graduate. i have my incredible, wonderful, spectacular best friend, a human being that i literally love with my entire soul. i have friends who are different and funny and strong and loud and beautiful and loving. i have had every single one of my top 10 happiest memories in the last five years. i have felt safe and loved. i have laughed so hard i cried. i have laugh lines, now.Â
the best moments of my life have happened in the last five years.
so maybe this is dumb and i should stfu, but i promise, i fucking promise, this isnât forever. it isnât. it might suck and it might hurt and it might be the worst thing in your life, but someday, it wonât be like this.
so believe me when i say: it gets better.
It would just be so terrible to be pinned between two ladies as they call me cute and laugh at how flustered and embarrassed I get. Oh gosh I sure hope they don't kiss their hot mouths against my neck and slip their hands up under my clothes!
Erotic fic and porn can be a lot of fun! But if you arenât being provided with adequate sex ed through other channels (comprehensive sexual education, frank and open discussions with trusted adults, etc.), turning to fanfic and porn for your understanding of sex is gonna leave some major blindspots and may leave you with some unrealistic expectations. While thereâs nothing wrong with these kinds of erotica, they are fictional and tend to leave out a lot of the more realistic, human parts of sex - they serve a great purpose, but that purpose isnât primarily educational. The following is an incomplete list of some things you should probably know about sex that a lot of fic and porn tends to leave out:
It isnât always super hot or super sweet. Sometimes itâs super silly. Or sometimes itâs sort of mundane and youâre both simply scratching an itch. Thatâs fine too. (Hell, sometimes youâre talking about comic books while boning and your partner is laughing that youâre getting REALLY ANGRY about spider-man while theyâre going to town on you.)
You will probably not climax at the same moment. Itâs a sweet idea, but extremely hard to coordinate, and if all your concentration is going into coming at the exact same moment, youâre probably not enjoying yourselves as much as you might.Â
Sometimes bodies make weird, goofy noises. Squelching, slapping, air-escaping, un-sexy noises. Itâs okay to laugh at this.Â
Hell, itâs okay to laugh during sex in general.
Sometimes you fart. Sometimes you fart while someone is going down on you and it is embarrassing as hell. This isnât the end of the world. Embarrassing body things happen. Heck, sometimes, with anal, thereâs a little poo. You get over it.
Sometimes sex is⌠kinda bad? This doesnât mean itâs assault, or something traumatic â sometimes itâs consensual but just kinda bleh and not what you hoped for. The best thing to do (if youâre talking about sex with a partner and not just a hook up who you can not call back) is talk to them about it. Figure out what went wrong, what you enjoy and what you donât, and communicate what techniques you do and donât like. Also donât be afraid to stop someone in the middle of the sex act youâre not enjoying and offer guidance on how to help make it good for you too. (Side tip: masturbation makes great research into what you personally do and donât enjoy sexually)
You wonât enjoy every sex act. Not every body is wired to find every thing pleasurable. You might find anal does nothing for you. You may find g-spot stimulation just makes you really anxious that youâre about to pee. You may not enjoy giving or receiving oral. Youâre not broken if you donât like something that every pornstar or smutty fanfic protagonist seems to have earth-shattering orgasms from. Everyoneâs got nerve endings in a range of places â itâs quite literally, different strokes for different folks.
On that note, not all orgasms are earth-shattering. Sometimes it just feels warm and nice. Thatâs fine too.Â
Sometimes, if youâre neutral on a sex act and your partner loves it, you can suck it up for them, and theyâll suck up something theyâre not crazy about for your pleasure in return. But communicate preferences with each other! Know that when a partner does that thing you love that they donât get much from, that itâs an act of care, and vice versa.Â
Falling asleep in each otherâs arms right after wild passionate sex seems really romantic, but dried and crusty fluids are gonna be a bitch in the morning. Also, after sex, you should both (regardless of your equipment) go pee to clear out the urethra of any gunk or bacteria to reduce risk of a UTI.Â
Putting a towel down on the bed before sex means you donât have to sleep on wet funky sheets. (itâs also verrrrrry useful for period sex if you or your partner menstruate.)
A lot of people donât like dirty talk, or rough sex. Always ask first. (Fanfic on the whole does a better job than porn at showing communication, but a lot of it is still highly fictive on this point)
PROTECTION PROTECTION PROTECTION. Use condoms, dental dams, etc. not just to prevent pregnancy, but to reduce risk of STIs. (Yes, even couples with the same genitals who donât need to worry about pregnancy).
Lube is great and very important, but random goopy things around you are not good lube. Random oils especially, since oil doesnât flush out well and can trap bacteria inside the body â oil-based lubricant also degrades condoms. Use lube specifically designed for intimate purposes. Water-based and silicone-based lubes help sex feel really good!
Bigger isnât necessarily better. A lot of people with vaginas donât enjoy the feeling of being repeatedly punched in the cervix by a monster cock. Some people enjoy a larger size when being penetrated by an appendage or toy and some donât.
Bodies are hairy. Genitals are hairy. You may get a pube stuck in your teeth at some point. If your partner is WAY fuzzier than porn ever led you to believe theyâd be, well, thatâs normal.Â
Not everyone loves the taste of ejaculate. Sometimes itâs nasty (flavor tends to vary from person to person depending on their diet, but sometimes you just really donât like it no matter what. Some of us hate the taste of peanut butter. People donât always like things). Itâs okay not to swallow, or to request a penis-having partner warn you so they donât ejaculate in your mouth (in fact, itâs polite for them to do the latter).Â
If youâre gonna have shower sex, get one of those rubbery mats for the shower floor that gives you traction, because otherwise itâs super embarrassing to call for an ambulance while dripping wet and naked because you slipped and accidentally broke something and your partner got a concussion while you were trying to bang in the shower.Â
Moaning and screaming wildly during sex is fun but it will make the neighbors in the apartments adjacent to you hate you. Make choices accordingly.Â
soulmate (n.)
A person with whom you have an immediate connection the moment you meet â a connection so strong that you are drawn to them in a way you have never experienced before. As this connection develops over time, you experience a love so deep, strong and complex, that you begin to doubt that you have ever truly loved anyone prior. Your soulmate understands and connects with you in every way and on every level, which brings a sense of peace, calmness and happiness when you are around them. And when you are not around them, you are all that much more aware of the harshness of life, and how bonding with another person in this way is the most significant and satisfying thing you will experience in your lifetime. You are also all that much aware of the beauty in life, because you have been given a great gift and will always be thankful.
You are allowed to grieve for what you lost when you went through trauma. You are allowed to mourn. You are allowed to be angry. You are allowed to feel.Â
anger doesnât make you a bad person. your darkest feelings on your worst days donât make you a bad person- you donât have to navigate living with trauma with only positivity and nobody should expect that from you
There is no rule book for how you should feel after a trauma.Â
Some people feel angry, sad, scared, confused or any number or combination of things. Some people donât feel at all.Â
Itâs normal to go back and forth between different feelings or feeling and not feeling.Â
Your trauma response does not have to follow rules or stereotypes.Â
However you are feeling is valid. I promise.Â
The little demons of grief came to live with me, in the space between the shadows and the floor.
I can't hear what they're telling me, even though I try.
âKissing a woman feels much more fun.â â Olivia Colman
JENNIFERâS BODY (2009) HIGH FIDELITY (2020-) BLACK SWAN (2010) BUT IâM A CHEERLEADER (1999) ATOMIC BLONDE (2017) PROFESSOR MARSTON AND THE WONDER WOMEN (2017) CRUEL INTENTIONS (1999)
100 good questions to ask your friends at 4:02 am when you canât sleep (can also function as an asks list)
Are you bothered by your cosmic insignificance?
Do you mourn for a place or person youâve never known?
Do you really think there is somebody for everybody?
Do you place any value in gender roles?
Do you have to be related to be family?
Are your platonic relationships just as valuable as romantic or family ones?
Are you in love? Do you want to be?
Do you think you can put love into categories (family, platonic, romantic, etc.) or is it just one general sensation?
Would you be happy with a life without romance?Â
Are you always going to be a little in love with somebody?
Would you change your appearance if you could?
Do you have the feeling youâve lost something you might have had in another life - whether it be a person, a place, a world, a language, etc.?
Do you believe in reincarnation?
Would you want to be reincarnated?
Do you think youâre special, or just another person amongst billions? Can you be both?
Do theoretical ethical debates have any value? Is it important people discuss ethical dilemmas, e.g. the trolley problem?
Did you have imaginary friends? Do you still have them?
Are you religious? Do you think your religion is âcorrectâ?
If you arenât religious, do you wish you were? Why?
Do you want a grand adventure?
Do you have somebody, whether it be a friend or stranger, who you think you could have loved if the circumstances were different?
How long does it take you to fall in love with somebody?Is the sensation of âfalling in loveâ or âbeing in loveâ better?
Is love about convenience or something more? Can it be about both?
Do you think you really understand your gender and sexuality?
How fluid is your concept of gender and sexuality?
Whatâs the most life-changing choice youâve made so far?
Are you afraid of growing old?
Would you want to live forever? How about for a billion years, a million, a millennium, a century?
Do you believe in some form of god/s?
Are your choices fated or of your own free will?
Do you have a hunch about how youâre going to die?
Do you believe in star signs?
How old do you have to be to be considered an adult?
Was your childhood happy?
What are you missing from your life?
Have you ever met someone who had a very similar personality to your own? Did you get along?
Do opposites attract?
Is your life what you expected it would be five years ago?
Do you know what you want out of life?
What makes a person âgoodâ? Are you a âgood personâ?
What fundamentally matters do you?
Is freewill an illusion?
Do you create art? How do you define art?
How often do you lie? Is all lying inherently bad? Are you generally truthful?
Do you want to be remembered after your death? What for?
Is true world peace ever possible?
Do you have to suffer to truly understand the human condition? What is the human condition? How can you really experience it?
Are you free? Will you ever be? Can anyone be truly free?
Do you hold yourself to higher standards than you hold others?
What do you expect from a friend or partner?
What question could you ask to find out the most about a person?
Do you justify all your beliefs or have you just inherited/absorbed some?
Which beliefs do you have that is most likely to be wrong?
Can human really understand the complete nature of the universe, space and time?
Is a conscious what makes someone a person?
What do you think about artificial intelligence?
Do you thinks humans are obsessed with escapism (books, video games, movies, etc.)? Are you looking for an escape? Do you think thatâs a bad thing?
Are we eventually going to ârun outâ of new combinations for music, art, language, etc.? Is there a limit to human creativity?
What do you think the next era of music will be like?
What do you think the next era of fashion will be like?
Do we live in tumultuous times, or do they just seem so strange because weâre living in them?
Would you want to meet a clone of yourself? Would you like them?
How confident are you, really?
How consistent is your perception of time?
What age should people be allowed to vote? Should children and teenagers be allowed to vote?
How do you feel about the idea âan eye for an eyeâ?
Whatâs the worse thing a person can be?
How do you feel about monogamy?
Can you be in love with someone and still fall in love with someone else?
Whatâs the tragedy of your life?
Would your life make a good play?
Should people be prosecuted for crimes that werenât considered crimes at the time?
Would you fight for your country? Do you feel a sense of loyalty to your nation?
Do you believe in gender equality in every aspect?
Do we have a moral obligation to care for others? To what extent?
Do you crave approval and/or praise?
Is there comedy in all tragedy and tragedy in all comedy?
Are you ever going to be satisfied?
When you are sad, do you listen to music that conveys your emotions or music that makes you happy?
Is your music organised by mood or sensation or do you just listen to everything at any time?
Would you marry a friend if they needed you to (e.g. for citizenship)?
Are you a deep person?
Given the chance to live your life on Mars, with no hope of returning to Earth but with the promise of scientific discovery and glory, would you take it?
Are you who people think you are?
Do you think you would be happier if you had been born a different gender, sexuality, race, ethnicity, nationality or religion?
Whatâs your toxic trait? Are you trying to improve yourself and fix it?
Do you anger easily?
Are you a jealous person?
If you lost all your memories, would you have the same personality?
Given the chance to reset your life (with none of the knowledge you currently have), would you take it?
Is hate as strong as love? Who do you hate?
Do you speak multiple languages? Which do you dream in? What language would you want to learn?
Do you draw meaning from your dreams, or do you disregard them?
How would you describe yourself when you love? Do you love forcefully, unconditionally, gently, quietly, desperately?
Is unrequited love real love?
Is your perception of yourself similar or the same to how others perceive you?
Are you overly analytical?
Do you ever feel that you are really a terrible person, and only act good out of societal or some other obligation?
Do you believe in magic? Are you superstitious?
What belief do you have that isnât logically grounded, but you still firmly believe in?
I was talking about being afraid of people leaving me behind because I'm too sick, and my boyfriend just looked at me and said: "It's my choice to be your boyfriend. It's your friends choice to be your friends. You don't have to understand it, but you have to respect our choice. Don't try to make the decision of whether you're worthy of people on their behalf because that's not your decision to make." I think that's an important thing to remember. That whether we're worthy of someone's time and effort is something others can decide for themselves regardless of whether or not we agree with them. There's a lot of peace in realizing that literally all you have to do is accept the love other people choose to throw your way. That you aren't the one who gets to determine that you aren't worthy of their love. That other people can choose to love you regardless of how you feel about yourself - and that you can learn to respect their choice even though you're feeling unworthy.
This is your daily reminder to not be ashamed of making your life easy for yourself.
Cut your food into small pieces, make the font size 30 on your e book, use straws to drink, get a pen thatâs comfortable to hold, take more naps, walk slowly, eat another cookie, buy velcro shoes, re-watch the part you couldnât understand the first time, write things on your hands so you donât forget it⌠whatever you want and/or need
Donât let anyone tell you how you should be doing things. We donât need to prove each other anything
Sam & Deena in Fear Street Part One: 1994 (2021) Raelle & Scylla in Motherland: Fort Salem (2020)
Clementine Von Radics, from In A Dream You Saw A Way To Survive; âYou are on the floor cryingâ
[Text ID: âAnd you have been / on the floor crying / for days. / And that is you / being brave. / That is you getting through it / as best you know how. / No one else can decide / What your tough looks like.â]
I think what breaks me the most about the scene where Luz opens up is that the whole thing is Luz trying not to be a burden. The whole thing is Luz saying âit was a long time ago,â or ânot an issue anymoreâ or âI was dumb.â
Itâs the way she speaks slightly faster, tone slightly higher, voice strained. The way she makes herself smaller and even physically tries to take up less space. She doesnât know what to do with her hands.
Itâs the way sheâs completely ready to be dismissed, completely ready to say its not a big deal before someone beats her to it. The way she basically says âI know I had a lot going through my head at the time, and it was weighing heavy on me, but itâs not an excuse for what I did.â
The fact that she says, with somewhat of a smile, âit was a long time ago soâŚâ before she turns to look at Amity and realizes she canât brush this off.
Itâs not that Amity is mad, itâs that she can tell this means a lot. Itâs the fact that Amity probably put together the fact that her whole mission with her own dad has probably made Luz feel worse. Amityâs done nothing wrong, of course. She had no way of knowing, but it must still feel gut-wrenching regardless.
So Luz explains. And what breaks her isnât admitting that itâs the anniversary, or that her mom isnât with her, its that she âdoesnât have any flowers.â and the voice acting is so good. and her little voice break there is so telling.
Because she has a door to build, and a stupid dictator to keep an eye on, and by comparison her tradition feels so small⌠she doesnât even have any flowers.
She ends with âI was dumb.â and in the chaos Amity doesnât get to comfort her in the moment, but does promise to help. She listens, and announces that yes, they will get flowers. They will do something about it.
And then they do.
Oh, youâre in control? Really? You are? Why are you taking a step back then when I come into your personal space? And why are you shaking when I lean in? Why are you avoiding my gaze? Why are you waiting for me to take your stupid little claim more serious when your body language doesnât back up your bratting in the slightest? At least try a little harder. Itâs pathetic.
I'm not sure if this will come out right but:
Being loved is NOT a reward for being beneficial or useful in any way. You don't become less deserving of being loved if you aren't productive for a day or if you have a bad day and can't get out of bed.
I promise. Being loved has nothing to do with how you "help" the world or those around you.
What kind of intelligence does your character posses? Based on theory of multiple intelligences, these are some ideas what kind of smarts your characters might posses that arenât the typical academic or street smarts.Â
These people are good at visualizing things, seeing in 3D, being able to imagine how things look even out of sight from the information they have about it. They are good with directions, maps, charts and pictures. Eye for drawing, patterns and puzzles.Â
Especially useful for: architects, engineers, artists, pilots
The ability to use words well, when writing and speaking. Typical strenghts are telling stories, memorizing information, love for reading, skill with words, debating and persuasive skills, adept at explaining complicated subjects. Also tend to be great at languages.Â
Especially useful for: writers, journalists, lawyers, teachers, public speakers
Not necessarily but possibly mathematical, these people are great at reasoning, pattern recognition and logical analysis. Enjoyment for abstract thinking and ideas, excellent problem-solving skills and logical argumentation are other common traits. Pattersn, categories, relationships.Â
Especially useful for:Â mathematicians, accountants, scientists, and detectives.
Great hand-eye cordination, physical movement, often skilled at sports, dancing and creating things with their hands. Learn and remember rather by doing than listening or reading. Sense of timing and mind-body union excellent.Â
Especially useful for: dancers, sculptors, actors, athletes, surgeons, crafts people, soldiers, police officers
Sensitive listeners. Thinking in patterns, recognizing rhythms, notes and melodies, good at remembering tunes, these people often enjoy singing or playing instruments. Often show great understanding of musical structure and know quickly when they hear someone going off-key.Â
Especially useful for: musical teachers, composers, musicians,Â
These people are very good at understanding and interacting with others. From verbal to non-verbal communication, they are proficient at assessing motivations, moods and desires of others and seeing things from multiple perspectives. Great communicators, create positive relationships with others easily and solve group dynamics and group conflicts well. Also enjoy discussions, debates and teamwork.Â
Especially useful for: psychologists, counselors, salespeople, politicians, philosophers, teachers, managers, team leaders
The opposite of interpersonal smarts is the intrapersonal intelligence, where people are very in tune with themselves and their feelings. They are honest with themselves, enjoy self-reflection, analysing theories and ideals, love daydreaming, and show great self-awareness and assessment of their own strenghts and weaknesses.Â
Especially useful for: writers, philosophers, theorits, scientists
Bonus types:Â
People that show exceptional curiousity, get inspired by little things around them and connect ideas and concepts in an unsual way. Itâs a more feeling-based, spontaneous type of intelligence that gets less recognition, but brings immense benefits in all fields.Â
Especially useful for: artists, marketers, scientists, concept artists
Drawn to abstract ideas, these people enjoy deep discussions, donât like to settle on one truth and ask questions that have no easy or no answer at all. Connecting, conceptualizing, analysing, listening and putting things together, they are great at seeing things from a distance, seeing the whole and not just the pieces.Â
Especially useful for: scientists, philosophers, researchers, theorists, designers, analysts
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